Dearly beloved, we have been collected right here today to get through this thing called⦠a season finale! Yes, its correct, present episode marks the termination of absolutely the blockbuster that was S2 of
Hold Off, Is This A Romantic Date?
And to celebrate that finishing, whom easier to think about it and discuss the joys and successes of an extended length crush, than star and queer person Elise Bauman? You may accept Elise from life’s delightful queer Christmas time rom-com that come around this past year,
In Christmas Tree
,
but around these areas, she has another concept which nearly as vaunted: Drew’s girlfriend! Yes, you heard that right, this shimmering twosome ended up being birthed from the great queer practice: the cross country crush.
But what is it towards long distance crush that will be very appealing to queers throughout the world? Is it the family member scarcity of like minded queers around you? possibly the power to flirt long-distance requires some of the pressure off? The 3 of us enter into everything, AND Drew and Elise share some probably TOO precious facts about their particular relationship!
Not to mention discover a casino game! This week, we make Drew have fun with the game that merely took more than Twitter and Tiktok for several momentary weeks: “They may be a 10 but⦔ It’s a great time, all over!
SHOW RECORDS
+ Follow Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!
+
Read Drew’s interview with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ Enjoy
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it nevertheless rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s legs tend to be⦠indeed very persuasive!
+ will likely Shortz is certainly the name of the NYT Crossword publisher!
*the much more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: after which we had gotten off the telephone, and then we both hopped on the phone two mere seconds afterwards we’re like, “Therefore, the line is closed, the audience is legitimately not allowed to actually go over the line.”
Christina
: I mean, leading among certainly my personal favorite voice memos and even messages i acquired from Drew, i cannot remember which type it was available in, it absolutely was love, “I made this plan and today the borders tend to be closed.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it was a proper second.
[theme track plays]
Drew
: Hi, I Am Drew.
Christina
: And I Also’m Christina.
Drew
: And welcome to
Wait, Is This A Date?
Christina
:
Wait, So Is This A Date?
is actually an Autostraddle podcast brought to you by myself getting the giggles, and concern this is certainly on every person’s mouth, wait, was actually this a date?
Drew
: we are after our next period, and I also think we resolved it, i do believe.
Christina
: Yeah, In my opinion i am just taking huge finale energy, like whenever comedies had previously been before a studio market, and every person would walk-in so there was one hour of applause because it was like, it is the last, which is the way I’m experiencing. Though to be clear, no body features applauded me personally however, hateful. Thank you so much, thanks. Today i’m liked and used. Drew, that you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about this part.
Christina
: Yeah, correct?
Drew:
Perhaps season three I’ll get the intros. I’m Drew Gregory, Im a writer for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans lady. You know what, i do believe when we carry out another season I would like to have a great one we throw in right at the end.
Christina
: Ooh, anything spicy, you wish to jazz it?
Drew
: Yeah, I don’t have any such thing today though.
Christina
: Okay, leave them hoping a lot more, i believe that is fantastic.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: I am Christina Tucker, i’m also an author at Autostraddle, additionally the net at-large. A podcaster, a help gay black woman, and an individual who’s sensation quite jazzy below about this mid-day.
Drew
: Great, I’m truly grateful you are jazzy and I’m spicy, or at least I’m planning the possibility that sooner or later i’m going to be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you are like, I don’t know, one half of the movie Dune, the spruce will happen. Cool guide, females, she actually is unmarried. In any event, I do have a game title for all of us to relax and play about this hollowed day of all of our finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: This is the traditional, and also by traditional I mean a game that overran the internet and TikTok for 2-3 weeks, “They Truly Are a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, great.
Christina
: Now Drew, i’ll set-out some floor policies individually, because I’m sure you like a follow through concern.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: once I state they may be a 10, they’re a 10 to you by any means that counts for you, which can be physically, that could be mentally, this is simply people you really feel is actually a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, ok, many thanks.
Christina
: i really do n’t have any situations for just what more you in this individual are doing in your internet dating existence, you are merely browsing have to go together with your instinct and determine.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: All right?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: we are going to put in which make that clear, here we get. They are a 10, but they clap after airplane countries.
Drew
: I always decided everyone was too remarkable using this, where it’s like they may be a 10 and this thing makes them go to a two, seriously.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: and so i’m browsing nevertheless give a pretty reasonable eight.
Christina
: Yeah, i do believe which is reasonable. I think eight will be the correct number of cringe removal for the small motion. Fine, this is exactly a good begin. Okay, they’re a nine even so they never text you initially.
Drew
: and that I cannot ask follow-up concerns?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: therefore i cannot ask, well would they content me when we text? I’d state a five.
Christina
: Yeah, maybe not texting very first actually ever, that’s rough.
Drew
: actually is unusual.
Christina
: that is rough material. Okay, they have been a five however they drive you to definitely every errand you’ve ever had to perform.
Drew
: That’s really nice, but i really could constantly⦠If there were five, I’ll offer him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But I’m sure you adore an unicamente jaunt anyway, you love an errand run.
Drew
:after all now my sweetheart Elise performed drive me to an errand, and I also was actually very thankful, however if which was the single thing she performed we’dn’t maintain a commitment, that was merely an additional very little nice added bonus.
Christina
: i do believe that is fair.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: okay, these are generally a seven but they just pretend to read your work.
Drew
: begin to see the part of that that bothers myself could be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, I realized it could be.
Drew
: It’s not the maybe not checking out it. Should they didn’t read my work its like, I am not that, I’d be a tiny bit, its like never ever? But it is okay, i really could conquer it. Even so they lie to me about this is exactly what’s weird for me, to make sure thatwill drop to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, proper, appropriate. These are generally a three nevertheless they gain access to the criterion dresser.
Drew
: And do I have you to definitely get?
Christina
: And you have access, you benefit from that accessibility, yes.
Drew
: I could have a good affair thereupon six.
Christina
: I think you could. It absolutely was a three, but yeah, you’re knocking it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that’s what I’m claiming, i am knocking it to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. Everyone loves that. They may be an eight but all of their pals are directly.
Drew
: Okay, there was clearly some discussion about this, because I think there clearly was a you’ll need assist. I think I perhaps had been regarding opposing part of all with the Autostraddle staff which mentioned that really fine to only have directly friends. I wish to point out that really great, it’s just not the life span We lead. All right buddies, that is going to visit a two.
Christina
: Yeah, i will need accept you on that one, i’d only believe it is only a little troubling, complicated.
Drew
: All direct friends?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: If they’re a new comer to queerness and are generally wanting to meet a lot more queer men and women, that’s unique of if they’re a recognised season queer who’s similar, do you know what? I really like becoming usually the one lesbian within my buddy selection of directly people.
Christina
: Yeah, i might have the same way when it had been a Black person who was actually like, “There isn’t any Ebony friends,” I would personally be like, “what’s happening there?” Internally.
Drew
: We’re not in a system sitcom, we cannot have a token individual.
Christina
: You don’t need to function as the token, you should not do that to yourself. Okay, we now have three more. They’ve been a seven nonetheless spend-all their particular spare time at the gym, constantly strength training down and up. I am not sure what people carry out in the gym.
Drew
: All of their free-time. I guess this will depend on which matters as free-time. We’ll state a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: we’ll bump all of them straight down two.
Christina
: Bump all of them down.
Drew
: but that is okay. I suppose it all depends largely for me personally, that we’m perhaps not asking a follow question, I’m sticking with five, nevertheless is dependent for me what matters as free-time.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: Can we watch films together, or head out for eating, is that leisure time? Is certainly not operate time spare time, or perhaps is it simply like when we do not have alternative activities?
Christina
: I hear you, we notice you.
Drew
: But I’ll stick to five.
Christina
: okay. They can be six, but their mommy is hotter than these are generally.
Drew
: Oh, I don’t know to go up or down.
Christina
: I know, correct?
Drew
: I don’t believe i really could ever date some one for their⦠It really is like if I’m maybe not keen on somebody to begin with, i am probably not will be dating all of them.
Christina
: Appropriate.
Drew
: I am not likely to be love, really, they might become their own hot mom. I think I’d claim that they may be however a six, I’m only browsing perhaps not call them and I’m likely to phone their unique mommy.
Christina
: Yeah, I believe like it’s as you remain the exact same, but maybe I spend time along with you a little more than I would personally so as-
Drew
: That’s a good point.
Christina
: receive some mother time. I do not think you transform.
Drew
: I did something truly bad that we still believe badly in regards to, that is that a person questioned myself aside, which was as I was a student in college, and I had not been interested, therefore I ended up being clear about this, I was clear I wasn’t curious. But she wished to be friends, and that I could tell that she said she desired to be buddies nevertheless was originating from destination-
Christina
: She had been wanting.
Drew
: Yeah. Nevertheless thing would be that all of the woman pals were really hot and cool, I really performed continued to be her buddy to be able to hang out with her pals. I did not sit about my personal objectives generally, however it nonetheless was not the best thing I did as a 20 year-old.
Christina
: after all regrettably it simply reminds me personally of these bout of
Intercourse additionally the City
in which Carrie’s relationship, in my opinion it really is Justin Theroux, in which he sucks, but their family members rocks, and she’s like, i will do that for a bit. I’m like, yeah, positively, which cannot.
Drew
: Carrie wasn’t trying to connect along with his household, the huge difference, you know very well what? It is good, we’re all great.
Christina
: A hookup can look like something, I’m always stating that.
Drew
: that is a truly fantastic point.
Christina
: your own final one, is actually a three but provides a coastline home.
Drew
: I’m about to state an annoying phrase, but I decided to go to NYU.
Christina
: awful to express.
Drew
: something sucks about me, which that is planning seem like a very humble brag, since it is really probably an excellent fictional character trait, but it sucks as you going through the globe. I went to a school that’s full of rich those that have all sorts of awesome coastline homes, as well as these other stuff, and I also only became friends with people who had been truth be told there on scholarships. Just, but mainly, I definitely, i did not make friends with others that has coastline houses.
Christina
: You didn’t utilize.
Drew
: Yeah, therefore I think if they’re a three nonetheless have a beach residence, they’re probably a-two. The fact⦠I’m not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you simply can’t create that step to work well with the sick coastline residence time.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what i am really wanting usually my pals who happen to be pretty down to earth, great men and women, increasingly more of them are just probably continue steadily to get that new cash right after which get coastline homes, and then i will be capable go out using my fantastic pals and become at a beach household. That is the dream in which i really could obtain the beach house.
Christina
: that is the dream after the afternoon, it really is brand-new cash and a beach house, that is all we’re interested in. You heard it here very first people.
Drew
: i really like new cash.
Christina
: Love brand-new money.
Drew
: Love brand-new cash. Yeah, that has been a delight. I would actually, I’d really already been planning to play that video game since it ended up being something on TikTok, therefore thanks for making my aspirations be realized.
Christina
: I thought it might be a fun anyone to perform, therefore was very enjoyable to generate them.
Drew
: Well, should we move on to the major sector on the few days, which can be slipping for those who reside in other towns and cities. Which will be unique of long-distance connections, because long-distance relationships will start really into an union, they may be able continue on into an union, this is basically the desire that queer individuals have to look at their own place they stay and get, no, I am not planning flirt using these folks, i’ll carry on instagram.com and locate somebody who resides really far off. And then we have a, I’m sure we usually state a very special visitor, however for myself this is certainly a tremendously special visitor. Do you want to present yourself?
Elise
: i might want to introduce my self. Are I the special guest?
Drew
: you will be, yes.
Christina
: kid, however.
Elise
: Great, wow, incredible. My name is Elise Bauman, i am a star, i am a queer individual, and that I’m here today because i am resting with among the hosts.
Christina
: Guess what type?
Elise
: Yeah, the remainder podcast is simply the audience attempting decipher which host I’m asleep with. I love that, it’s like a murder mystery but-
Christina
: there’s really no strategy to know.
Elise
: There’s no method to know. Yeah, performs this generate me a nepotism infant? Usually the way the industry works.
Christina
: Yes, which is the way the market works, babe.
Elise
: Nice, good.
Christina
: this might be it.
Elise
: Wow, maybe i possibly could get a career out of this.
Christina
: Fingers entered for you personally.
Elise
: Nepo child to career, wow, fantastic. I have constantly wanted to be a nepo child.
Christina
: I’m thus pleased.
Drew
: Yeah, I was just browsing point out that for people who do not know, well I am just ruining the murder mystery from it all, but Elise and that I are in a relationship, and performed begin matchmaking during pandemic, and Elise stays in Toronto, and I live in Los Angeles, that are in fact various locations, as they are indeed in numerous countries.
Elise
: they truly are certainly, these include without a doubt.
Christina
: And Drew, not saying you went against yours instinct, but i actually do feel as if you might be normally an individual who states, why work with a long length minute? You can find people below I can date, how come this to your self? You are aware it will likely be difficult, you understand it will likely be hard, how come this? However right here you will be.
Drew
: See, which is fascinating, because i’m like i usually liked to have a small amount of both, i simply believe I didn’t make the long-distance ones maybe as honestly.
Christina
: Maybe that’s all, yeah.
Drew
: But i loved an extended distance flirt.
Christina
: Correct.
Drew
: i really believe this simply stored heading. Once we started-
Elise
: therefore the answer, Drew, wasn’t that I became only attractive and it was actually personal for me, and that it was actually really particular in my opinion that I became simply incredibly amazing which means you merely out of cash all of your current policies and also you mentioned, “i need to have this 1.”
Drew
: I mean truly kind of the clear answer in an extended sense. In the sense so it simply held happening. Immediately after which the friends in the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, who we always accept, as some people may already know, I would personally continually be like, I’d be wanting to date people while in the pandemic in L. A. in addition to encompassing aspects of Los Angeles. And then they would make fun of myself because I would personally often you should be want, “I mean, i possibly could just make an effort to date Elise Bauman.” I found myself always, “I mean, {this person|this i